24 December 2012

Merry Monday

When it comes to December, the number one priority have always been surviving it. Last year I even managed to not let it get me down, a proud accomplishment. But it turns out there is a level above that, and I have reached it. Cracked the code. If I have to boil it down to one thing, it is saying no. Unapologetic, but with a smile.

Hearing about other people's Christmas/jule plans no longer make me cringe or feel like I am missing out. I love giving presents, but I prefer to do so when I feel like it. And I am so happy that no one has been stressing about buying me stuff they can't afford and that I don't need.

The gift tree

The gift tree on a square in Malmö, Sweden, trying to suck me in. It nearly worked.

What little family I have, I don't see, and most of my friends are busy going places they feel obligated to be. We sometimes dream about the relaxed jul with friends, a drama free evening of good food and great company. But in the end they have to go somewhere else, to avoid disappointing someone. I am grateful that I am not that someone. Being endured sucks. Nothing makes a person feel smaller or less appreciated, than being merely endured. And nothing is sweeter than being in the company of people who appreciate you. I hope that you are not just surviving today, but enjoying it. I know that I will.

A merry Monday and a big happy bear hug for you!

 

17 comments:

  1. Heya Sandra!

    We would love to be sharing a big pot of mulled wine with you and chatting all evening, my wife and I. For us it's a bit of a mixed bag, some family we're excited to see, some less so. But this year has been much less frantic for us trying to buy presents and get everything done (we've done less than in years past), and we've had a lot of nice time together and with friends this December, so that's been really nice.

    Hugs, and best wishes for 2013. Perhaps one day when we're living nearby, we can make good on that shared pot of mulled wine :)

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    1. It is still a dream of mine to have that cosy dinner we talked about years ago. The one where we all contribute with our favorite tradition. A little American, French, Canadian, Australian, German and a little Danish tradition. That would be fantastic. At least it is in my head.

      Big hugs back at both of you, and a happy new year too. :-)

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  2. Sandra, wishing you the best for Christmas, New Years, and after. You're greatly appreciated, and you should know that you bring much beauty, humor, and spice into our world.

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    1. Oh, thank you for the sweet words, they mean a lot to me. You just put a big smile on my face. :-)

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  3. I stopped celebrating Jul years ago. It just became too much. The constant fights between "family" over who was going to play host and then there were the expectations of certain gifts. I just found that Jul had lost its meaning. It wasn't about spending time with loved ones. It was about the expectation of gifts and all the drama that came with it. Personally I'm actually glad to find someone else who feels the same way. I don't wait for Jul to give gifts, I do it when I can and when I feel like it. I'm actually pretty relieved when December is over and I don't have to deal with it anymore. Anyway just wanted to say that I've been reading your blog on and off for a while now and that you and your blog are pretty damn awesome. Oh and I hope you have a totally rockin' 2013.

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    1. It is oddly comforting to hear from others who have come to the same conclusion. And, I agree with you that no matter how skilled you are in avoiding the jule (and upcoming new years eve) hysteria, it is a relief when December is over. Also, other people's jule frustration and anxiety can be quite painful to witness.

      I am really happy that you found the blog, and I wish you a hard rockin' 2013 too. :-)

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  4. Glædelig jul til dig Sandra! Echoing a previous poster: you are appreciated and make the world a better place (at least mine) :) I thank you for letting me come and visit your blog home! Wishing you all the very best for 2013!

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    1. I am so happy that you are a guest in my blog home, Celena! I wish I could hug you right now, to emphasize that, oh, the limitations of the internet. All the very best for you too in 2013. :-)

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  5. Sandra, completely agree with you. We had the first jul by ourselves for the first time in years. What a relief from stress!

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    1. Ah, good for you! Spread the word. :-)

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  6. Good for you Sandra.
    i like it better far away from home and obligations. this year, i cowardly ran away from obligations, but they might catch up with me... i'll have to run faster. also no new year's eve for me, as i have to get up at 5 to go to work on the 1st. that's also a relief.
    the more you explore, the more you see that this period of time is no good, at least to adults. but a lot of people like to save the appearances maybe making some of the other people feel badly in the process.

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    1. It really worked this time. I have tried running from it in earlier years, but it somehow follows you around. When it comes to new years eve, I am cursed. Nothing zen about that night. I wish I could spend it in a quiet place with a few friends, and just let the hysteria pass. Skipping it for work is not a bad plan, actually.

      But jul/Christmas was the hardest part. New years eve is just one night. We can do it. :-)

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    2. That's exactly what we're doing for New Year's eve - we're going to a friend's apartment for dinner, there will be just four of us :) Perfect, in my opinion.

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    3. Next year that's what I will be doing too. I will make that a promise to myself. :-)

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  7. Hi Sandra,
    thanks for this great photo!
    Wish you all the best and lots of energy for 2013 for the things you like and want to do.
    "Between the years" as we say in Germany I use my time off from the job mainly for sleeping - 10 hours per night. This dark time of the year is really exhausting to me and my energy level is around 0, in particular when sunshine is missing as in this winter. But finally it's getting brigher every day...
    I like your blog a lot!

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    1. Hi Ulrike,
      Thank you for the sweet wishes. The lack of daylight is taking its toll on us. We gain a mere two minutes a day, but at least we are going in the right direction. Some people say that the light therapy lamps really work, I seriously consider getting one.

      My best friend these days is coffee, lots of coffee. I hope your energy returns soon. The very best wishes for 2013 to you too. :-)

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